KJ3N ? Call sounds familiar, but I don't know him personally.
I know that contesting isn't for everyone. Some people like to chat with others on the air, and that's great.
As a colleague in work commented to me a few weeks ago, "So you don't operate casually?" "Nope. I have a logging/DX program running continuously, and I'm connected to the spotting cluster. If something is spotted that I need, on a band or mode, and I'm in the shack, then I will try and work it. Otherwise, I'm doing something else."
Different strokes for different folks. Nothing wrong with either.