Yep, it is what you make of it, which is why I choose to make it really simple and not make a big deal out of it like I used to. Just like how Thanksgiving last year was the most memorable one in my life; it was just me, my husband and my MIL and we had a scrambled egg breakfast together and turkey pot pies for dinner. My kids were with my ex, so we kept it simple and just enjoyed each other's company. It was much more enjoyable than the crazy "everything has to be perfect, stuff yourself to the gills, deal with family drama" bullshit I had to endure every year with the family I grew up with.